Love Relates

Love relates.

Love is about relating to another person.

Love is ever changing and growing, it is a continuum. You cannot be in a hurry to love or know another person. In relating to another we journey through a process of discovery. We come to a deep knowing. As soon as we try to use the structure of relationship to know and predict we do not allow each other the freedom to exist as we are, to love and be loved.

In a state of not loving, we live in a vacuum, feeling empty unseen and unknown .

When we learn to Relate to another we avoid taking each other for granted which is the source of much pain and suffering.

When a person speaks for their partner, thinking that they know the other so well, they   step out of relating into a construct or perception of the relationship and each other, rather than the discovery of one another. This is not relating.  It is impossible to know another completely.

 Love is not about conquering or controlling through being able to define and name another.

Not being grateful destroys love, it is insulting and disrespectful. In these moments you  step out of the present into the past trying to predict the future, worrying about things that may never occur.

When we relate we are consistently learning about the other, we remain curious and alert. We are able to see the multi facets of the other, allowing a depth to our experiences of relating, being and consciousness. Relating is a joyful experience. The exploration of consciousness is LOVE.

Do not reduce your relating into a stagnant ‘knowing’. Otherwise the other person becomes a mirror to you distorted by your wounds.

Through exploring another person you excavate your own inner recesses. By Travelling deeper into another person’s experiences, feelings, thoughts and dreams’ you will come to know your own essence. Love is about continually searching and seeking another.

Discovering new ways of loving one another and being with each other is LOVE. In this process both people remain an inexhaustible mystery.

Love then becomes a constant adventure of relating.

Love more today by becoming conscious of how you relate to another person.

30 days to consciously bring love into your life. Day One

30 days to consciously bring love into your life.

www.livingfromtheheart.co.uk

Each day I will be giving you exercises, tools and tips to help you live from the heart to improve your relationships and attract more love into your life.

'When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.' Lao Tzu

Day one: Begin a daily Practice of Gratitude

Today spend time throughout the day giving thanks for all that is going right in your life. Too often we dwell on what is going wrong. When we complain we weaken our resolve and ability to find solutions. Dwell on what works in your life today.
Make a list of everything you are grateful for. Begin with I am grateful for...
This practice gains momentum when practiced with patience over time.

Notice your distractions.  Evoke feelings of gratitude as you write - do not worry if it does not come easily. Enjoy the feelings when they arrive, feel them deeply in each cell of your body.

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Learning to tell and hear the truth

I created Living from The Heart in the early 00’s. Many  clients I worked with were interested in the truth, finding it and speaking it. The truth is so hard. People often question if they are telling or hearing the truth. The nature of language and its limits to convey,  describe and construct reality, hinder truth. People reflect and communicate to the best of their abilities. Anything that is expressed is a small part of their experience.

Truth does not wait to be told.

So how does a person know when they are hearing or telling the truth?

Many people struggle to listen to their bodies and meet basic human physiological needs like getting rest, food, water, sex, excretion. (Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs)

 

 It takes great patience and practice to develop the ability to become present and to listen to the intelligence of the body.

 

I help people to slow down and become better observers of their mind, body and emotions. Using a Body / Mind approach leads us to truth, combining eastern and western approaches to healing using:

Psychotherapy • Meditation • Breathwork • Energy Work

 

It is so important to learn to trust your body to receive accurate intuitions.

A story aligned with reality leads to deep wordless insights. If the story you are telling does not lead you to love, connection, and compassion it is not reality.

I have noticed that I am calmer, clearer and more available to the people in my life both personally and professionally. I abide in a deeper peace. This is the criterion for truth that I find to be most satisfying.

 

I will be running a very special weekend workshop on:

 

Advancing and deepening our communication skills on 15^th – 16^th June join us if you can

Venue: London NW5  

Times: 10 – 4pm both days

Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Conflict In itself is not a problem; it’s how you handle it, either creating more harmony or discord in the relationship. Dealing with conflict, and learning effective communication skills can help you to build more successful and loving relationships.

The workshop will explore effective ways to become aware of these negative patterns replacing more loving ways of being in relationships. Developing the capacity to recognise and accept differences from and similarities to other people. Helping you to understand others and ourselves, Embracing difference leads us to a better understanding of relationships with partners, family, and friends resulting in more open and accepting relationships.

Living our truth as whole beings requires us to live life as a creative act. This weekend will explore how we communicate in relationships and how we express our emotions, exploring your right to speak and hear truth. You will learn skills and techniques to help your relationship thrive focusing on the cornerstones of healthy relationships.

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