Love relates.
Love is about relating to another person.
Love is ever changing and growing, it is a continuum. You
cannot be in a hurry to love or know another person. In relating to another we journey
through a process of discovery. We come to a deep knowing. As soon as we try to
use the structure of relationship to know and predict we do not allow each
other the freedom to exist as we are, to love and be loved.
In a state of not loving, we live in a vacuum, feeling empty
unseen and unknown .
When we learn to Relate to another we avoid taking each
other for granted which is the source of much pain and suffering.
When a person speaks for their partner, thinking that they
know the other so well, they step out of relating into a construct or perception
of the relationship and each other, rather than the discovery of one another. This
is not relating. It is impossible to
know another completely.
Love is not about
conquering or controlling through being able to define and name another.
Not being grateful destroys love, it is insulting and disrespectful.
In these moments you step out of the present
into the past trying to predict the future, worrying about things that may
never occur.
When we relate we are
consistently learning about the other, we remain curious and alert. We are able
to see the multi facets of the other, allowing a depth to our experiences of
relating, being and consciousness. Relating is a joyful experience. The exploration
of consciousness is LOVE.
Do not reduce your relating into
a stagnant ‘knowing’. Otherwise the other person becomes a mirror to you distorted
by your wounds.
Through exploring another person
you excavate your own inner recesses. By Travelling deeper into another person’s
experiences, feelings, thoughts and dreams’ you will come to know your own essence.
Love is about continually searching and seeking another.
Discovering new ways of loving
one another and being with each other is LOVE. In this process both people remain
an inexhaustible mystery.
Love then becomes a constant
adventure of relating.
Love more today by becoming conscious
of how you relate to another person.